No, You Can’t Make a Person Change
Perhaps worth a read if you’ve been trying to change someone you care about.
You can’t make somebody change. You can inspire them to change. You can educate them towards change. You can support them in their change. But you can’t make them change.
So good:
People who have survived trauma, who have been abandoned or shamed or felt lost, they’ve survived that pain by latching onto worldviews that promise them hope. But until they learn to generate that hope for themselves, to choose their own values, to take responsibility for their own experiences, nothing will truly heal. And for someone to intervene and say, “Here, take my value system on a silver platter. Would you like fries with that?” only perpetuates the problem, even if done with the best of intentions.